Ugh, JD, sorry to hear this. My sister and her husband go through some of the same stuff with her step-daughter's biological mother. Unfortunately, in what I believe is meant to be the best for the kids, the system is skewed towards keeping the kids with their mother Best of luck to you, someday we will get it right and the system will do what is best for the kid on an individual basis. Luckily for my sister, the bio mother's lawyer conceded that he didn't have a case against why they should have custody and had them draft up a custody agreement where they have full custody and the mother has supervised visits over the summer and holidays. She rarely follows the rules and has not paid one dime of child support in 8 years, but the judge will not take away the visitation. The mother does not call or send cards or have any contact until visitation time. It's really sad. I'm not trying to bash the system either, I know a lot of people that work for CPS and the courts and they work very hard to keep kids in safe and loving environments, but they have to operate under the constructs they are provided with!! I know that there are cases where those guidelines work for the best too.
The good thing is we have so much information about her and none of it good. Even the "consultation" lawyer (before we had the info) says he doubts she can pull it off. But it will affect the kids who at this point are straight A students and active in all the school "stuff". I would hate to see that change. The trouble maker could end up back in jail because we are not going to hold back. She has destroyed any chance of being part of this family because she has burned all bridges. She actually sent a text asking to have the kids for the weekend while the kids former shrink was here getting on board. The shrink advised us not to allow the visit until after we have seen the judge and made visits "supervised" only. She has already screwed herself. On top of that the kids do not want to live with her.
Well, today she goes for a toenail drug test. Seems she has been bragging about a hair wash that gets rid of drug history and they know about it. We also sent over a photo of here this morning because she has also talked about using a stand in and I hope she does.
We also found out her husband has been a party to this whole thing. Their thinking that because he is in drug rehab it will shed a good light on their situation. Their thinking is just a little skewed because he still faces charges and jail time when he gets out.
JD, you are fighting the good fight. It's all about the children and what's right for them. Keep at it.
Thanks buddy......no way I will let these kids return to that kind of life. We can already see the damage in both of them. But we know courts can be stupid, it only takes a couple of lies. So until the judge hands down a decision we are staying alert and on top of everything. One good thing (in this case) about small towns is everybody knows everyone's business and info on her is not hard to get.
Sounds like things are starting to work out, the truth most always comes out. Especially in a small town, lol. God Bless you jd for all you and your wife have done for those kids.
Sounds like things are starting to work out, the truth most always comes out. Especially in a small town, lol. God Bless you jd for all you and your wife have done for those kids.
Thanks Ole Boy. Hoping her failure to appear for the drug test will be enough. By the way, we paid for the drug test.
Hope justice will be served, and kids can start learning how to lead a normal life. Share all the hugs and love you can give. Anger is a waste of precious time. Again I say pass out those hugs. Good luck!
Sounds like things are starting to work out, the truth most always comes out. Especially in a small town, lol. God Bless you jd for all you and your wife have done for those kids.
Thanks Ole Boy. Hoping her failure to appear for the drug test will be enough. By the way, we paid for the drug test.
Do you still have to pay if she didn't show? But then, if her not appearing tips the scale in your favor then it was money well spent.
Wow, I am new to the forum and just finished reading your thread. That is a terrible situation they are putting you and the kids into. I hope everything works out for you, good luck.
Our lawyer has finally sent us a copy of the letter he sent to the Judge, the cow's lawyer, the cow, and the cow's husband in re-hab.
He is asking that the suit be dropped, and we get paid for our time and expenses (over 4K at this point). On top of that he is insisting that the cow be forced to take the 9 panel drug test.
Now I know we will never see any of the money, but with luck she will end up in prison.
Now we hear that she is pregnant-----strange-----her husband has been in re-hab for over 4 months.
Now the concern has to be turned too what will they do next. Neither the cow or her husband are, shall we say "mentally balanced" and both have been know to brandish firearms while making violent threats. I would love to put up motion cameras and lights between now and when twit husband gets out of re-hab. Hopefully the out side dogs will be of help but they know the dogs. I guess I will post Sidney (Pit Bull) in the front.
And not a single person has heard a single word from her for 2 months. Not friend or foe. As much as I despise her, and I really do, I hope she doesn't do something foolish, because she has in the past, it would have a serious impact on the kids. Prison is the best place for her, at least there maybe she could get some help.
Idiot stepson #2 was released from re-hab. No contact with anyone but he has been seen by a number of people. he makes a post on FB and declares he does not want any "drama" and has blocked everyone but idiot stepson #2 who unloads on him. 99% of the drama comes from him and his fruitcake wife. Finally calls and come over. Blames all the court problems on fruitcake's lawyer and says she was railroaded into it.
Drug tests come back and fruitcake tests positive for a narcotic that she is forbidden to take. Had to pay for a 12 panel test because fruitcake knows all the tricks. Fruitcake shows up for test at one minute to closing on the final day.
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Any updates on the drug test, and how the kids are doing? I hope it's working out for you guys.
They found tramadol. We know she is taking at least one other. The kids are still doing OK. Still can't get over her blaming the law suit on being railroaded by her lawyers sister.
Bad to worse. It is not getting any better. Fruitcakes "lawyer" is the one who made a complaint about the condition of our rescues. We were completely cleared, in fact we got some praise. Because of the fruitcake and "her" complete inability to think, aided and abetted by "her" "drug expert shyster" the youngest girl is being forced into foster care with strangers. They snatched the little girl up in front of her older sister, who we foster. It was not a pleasant scene when they did it, plenty of screaming and crying. In front of her older sister and completely terrified. Three days later the older sister was spending the night with her aunt and family. She tried to commit suicide, and spent 14 days in some kind of medical facility. She is coming home today and from all reports she is doing much better. They put her on some drug that worked immediately and well. She is smiling, and is talkative, she wants to come home. 13 years old, and she is an amazing artist, hope she doesn't lose that. Of course it goes without saying, her parents will never set foot on my property again. And I will tell them when they get out of prison to cross the street if they see me. When the women folk went to their house to move things out they found out the 2 losers had actually pawned a chain saw that "he" borrowed from me to do some work on "his" property.
I feel for you. My son and his girlfriend had to go to rehab for drugs. We don't let up on them. They have to do regular drug testing to stay in our home, which I don't really want them there. Children's services are finally out of our lives, so that is a plus. I made it clear that if either tests positive for drugs, they are out and I will get my lawyer to file custody on the grand daughter.
My son got his CDL back and is back driving truck, so that is a good sign. But my faith in them making it work is minimal.
His girlfriend's mom said I am a cynic. Yeah, well my mom was a drunk and drug addict and I know the life that my grand daughter "could" see. Not really inclined to let that happen. I hope for the best and expect the worst.
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The good thing is we have so much information about her and none of it good. Even the "consultation" lawyer (before we had the info) says he doubts she can pull it off. But it will affect the kids who at this point are straight A students and active in all the school "stuff". I would hate to see that change. The trouble maker could end up back in jail because we are not going to hold back. She has destroyed any chance of being part of this family because she has burned all bridges. She actually sent a text asking to have the kids for the weekend while the kids former shrink was here getting on board. The shrink advised us not to allow the visit until after we have seen the judge and made visits "supervised" only. She has already screwed herself. On top of that the kids do not want to live with her.
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We also found out her husband has been a party to this whole thing. Their thinking that because he is in drug rehab it will shed a good light on their situation. Their thinking is just a little skewed because he still faces charges and jail time when he gets out.
Now lets see....1. A court ordered test. 2. Agreed to by both lawyers.
Her lawyer said he would drop her if she did not take the test. Her free lawyer.
And since the judge ordered it he can now have her arrested and force the test. I think.....I hope.
Thanks Ole Boy. Hoping her failure to appear for the drug test will be enough. By the way, we paid for the drug test.
Our lawyer has finally sent us a copy of the letter he sent to the Judge, the cow's lawyer, the cow, and the cow's husband in re-hab.
He is asking that the suit be dropped, and we get paid for our time and expenses (over 4K at this point). On top of that he is insisting that the cow be forced to take the 9 panel drug test.
Now I know we will never see any of the money, but with luck she will end up in prison.
Now we hear that she is pregnant-----strange-----her husband has been in re-hab for over 4 months.
Now the concern has to be turned too what will they do next. Neither the cow or her husband are, shall we say "mentally balanced" and both have been know to brandish firearms while making violent threats. I would love to put up motion cameras and lights between now and when twit husband gets out of re-hab. Hopefully the out side dogs will be of help but they know the dogs. I guess I will post Sidney (Pit Bull) in the front.
Idiot stepson #2 was released from re-hab. No contact with anyone but he has been seen by a number of people. he makes a post on FB and declares he does not want any "drama" and has blocked everyone but idiot stepson #2 who unloads on him. 99% of the drama comes from him and his fruitcake wife. Finally calls and come over. Blames all the court problems on fruitcake's lawyer and says she was railroaded into it.
Drug tests come back and fruitcake tests positive for a narcotic that she is forbidden to take. Had to pay for a 12 panel test because fruitcake knows all the tricks. Fruitcake shows up for test at one minute to closing on the final day.
I have some beach front property in Colorado for sale if anyone is interested.
It is not getting any better.
Fruitcakes "lawyer" is the one who made a complaint about the condition of our rescues. We were completely cleared, in fact we got some praise.
Because of the fruitcake and "her" complete inability to think, aided and abetted by "her" "drug expert shyster" the youngest girl is being forced into foster care with strangers. They snatched the little girl up in front of her older sister, who we foster. It was not a pleasant scene when they did it, plenty of screaming and crying. In front of her older sister and completely terrified. Three days later the older sister was spending the night with her aunt and family. She tried to commit suicide, and spent 14 days in some kind of medical facility. She is coming home today and from all reports she is doing much better. They put her on some drug that worked immediately and well. She is smiling, and is talkative, she wants to come home. 13 years old, and she is an amazing artist, hope she doesn't lose that.
Of course it goes without saying, her parents will never set foot on my property again. And I will tell them when they get out of prison to cross the street if they see me.
When the women folk went to their house to move things out they found out the 2 losers had actually pawned a chain saw that "he" borrowed from me to do some work on "his" property.
My son and his girlfriend had to go to rehab for drugs. We don't let up on them. They have to do regular drug testing to stay in our home, which I don't really want them there.
Children's services are finally out of our lives, so that is a plus.
I made it clear that if either tests positive for drugs, they are out and I will get my lawyer to file custody on the grand daughter.
My son got his CDL back and is back driving truck, so that is a good sign.
But my faith in them making it work is minimal.
His girlfriend's mom said I am a cynic.
Yeah, well my mom was a drunk and drug addict and I know the life that my grand daughter "could" see. Not really inclined to let that happen.
I hope for the best and expect the worst.
Money can't buy happiness, but it can buy cigars and that's close enough.
Prayers go out for you man.