Status Update

jlmarta

Just to let everyone know, this oldfart and his child bride have moved. Our old address is no longer any good. 

And before we get too far along, let me just clarify - this is definitely NOT a case of dry-begging or even reverse dry-begging. My humidor is full. I have no more room. Capisce? 

peter4jc

I'll bet I'm the only one here that has your new address...

jlmarta

Please don’t let it get out, Pete. 

And whats wrong with this silly forum, now??  Is there suddenly a limit to how long a post can be?   I tried about four or five times to post the full draft of what you see above but it only allows me to post the first two paragraphs!!  WTF??

jlmarta

I’ll try again. 

Just to let everyone know, this oldfart and his child bride have moved. Our old address is no longer any good. 

And before we get too far along, let me just clarify - this is definitely NOT a case of dry-begging or even reverse dry-begging. My humidor is full. I have no more room. Capisce? 

jlmarta

Nope. Still just two paragraphs. I give up!!!!

jlmarta

Let’s try the next paragraph:

Our reason for moving is that our age and health finally caught up to us. Barb is experiencing some early-stage dementia. Right now our doctor is calling it ‘mild cognitive decline’ but we all know what that means. And I no longer have the stamina to stand in front of the stove (any more than I can in front of my lathe) to cook our meals. Our cleaning lady took care of her part but she’s human, too and can’t do it all. 

jlmarta

One paragraph at a time, folks:

So, we let ourselves get talked into moving into an assisted living facility. The one we chose is pretty nice and it’s the only one in town that allows pets so we can keep Princess Fuzzbutt, aka Muffin. It’s nice but it’s not home. We sold our home of 24 years, had an estate sale, took a deep breath, and moved. It’s okay. We’re adjusting. 

Usaf06

Best of luck and well wishes Marty

jlmarta

Thankya, kind sir. Here’s some more:

But I wanted to let everyone know so there wouldn’t be a lot of questions regarding my non-participation in the holiday festivities here on this hallowed forum. 

Previous years have been a lot of fun, generosity, and camaraderie, but this year I’ll have to excuse myself from the jollities. I know you’ll all understand. 

jlmarta

Now for the last one:

I want to wish each of you the Merriest of Christmases and a healthy, happy, and prosperous New Year. I plan to continue lurking and dropping in periodically because nowhere else have I found a group of folks like the BOTLs and SOTLs on these boards. Thanks for having me. 

Patrickbrick

Marty, it was a great pleasure spending some time with you and your child bride a couple of Octobers ago.  Oh yea and Jasper too.  I am sorry you had to sell your beautiful home, I wish you two the best and hope that all works out in the end.  from what you posted, thoughts will be with you my friend.

90+_Irishman

Wish you the best of luck Marty and I’m sorry you guys had to sell but completely understand the reasons. Stay in touch and it was such a pleasure and honor meeting you and your lovely child bride!

Edna20

Best of luck Marty! When my grandparents moved to an assisted living apartment, very quickly my Nana started up a weekly card game (she taught us all how to play Blackjack when we were very young!, lol). They actually loved it there, they had more of a social life than they had had in years. I hope you and your wife have the same experience Happy holidays!! 

CharlieHeis

All the best to you and your wife, Marty. 

genareddog

Hope you and your child bride enjoy. Best wishes Marty

Amos_Umwhat

Thanks for sharing that with us.  I'd kind of noticed you'd not been around as much.  Hope things go well for you in your new digs.  

Yakster

Best of luck to and your child bride. I enjoyed the Herfs at your house and your generous hospitality. 

jlmarta

Thank you all for your kind wishes. You guys and gals are the best. 

I hope Santa brings each of you just what you want for Christmas. All except for Peter @peter4jc. He’s a bully, I’m told, so maybe a lump of coal for him?  (Just kidding, Peter...   )

dirtdude

Merry Christmas Marty, hope they can situate you with a pleasantly appointed smoking patio.
Cheers

jlmarta

dirtdude said:

Merry Christmas Marty, hope they can situate you with a pleasantly appointed smoking patio.
Cheers

I’m told that smoking of any kind is prohibited anywhere on the property. I’ve been driving to the nearby Moose Lodge where I’m a member and utilizing their smoking lounge. Unfortunately, I have to pay our caregiver (our private one) to sit with Barb while I do this. 

Lately, I’ve learned that one of the female tenants at our facility goes out daily and has a cigarette three times a day near the back edge of the property. Of course, I’d have to wait for good weather to enjoy a cigar that way. We’ll see how this develops. I’d rather not pay a couple hours wages each time I want a cigar but one does what one must, doesn’t one??

WaterNerd

Hi Marty Just saw the post. Wishing you and your wife a Very Merry Christmas!

matkn293

Good to hear from you Marty. Hope that you find peace in the move and it works out for the better for you. Aaaaand you find a place to get a smoke in. 

silvermouse

jlmarta said:

dirtdude said:

Merry Christmas Marty, hope they can situate you with a pleasantly appointed smoking patio.
Cheers

I’m told that smoking of any kind is prohibited anywhere on the property. I’ve been driving to the nearby Moose Lodge where I’m a member and utilizing their smoking lounge. Unfortunately, I have to pay our caregiver (our private one) to sit with Barb while I do this. 

Lately, I’ve learned that one of the female tenants at our facility goes out daily and has a cigarette three times a day near the back edge of the property. Of course, I’d have to wait for good weather to enjoy a cigar that way. We’ll see how this develops. I’d rather not pay a couple hours wages each time I want a cigar but one does what one must, doesn’t one??

Yes, emotional health is just as important as physical well-being. If we had your address we could bomb you with private caregiver funds (you already have the cigars)....

miller65rod

Best to you and your wife Marty hope everything goes well for the both of you.

peter4jc

silvermouse said:

jlmarta said:

dirtdude said:

Merry Christmas Marty, hope they can situate you with a pleasantly appointed smoking patio.
Cheers

I’m told that smoking of any kind is prohibited anywhere on the property. I’ve been driving to the nearby Moose Lodge where I’m a member and utilizing their smoking lounge. Unfortunately, I have to pay our caregiver (our private one) to sit with Barb while I do this. 

Lately, I’ve learned that one of the female tenants at our facility goes out daily and has a cigarette three times a day near the back edge of the property. Of course, I’d have to wait for good weather to enjoy a cigar that way. We’ll see how this develops. I’d rather not pay a couple hours wages each time I want a cigar but one does what one must, doesn’t one??

Yes, emotional health is just as important as physical well-being. If we had your address we could bomb you with private caregiver funds (you already have the cigars)....

jlmarta

@peter4jc
@silvermouse

You guys have a good point. I appreciate the thought but handouts aren’t in my game plan. Instead, I plan to try shaming my oblivious, self-centered stepson into spending a couple hours per week with his mother, thereby allowing me time to grab an occasional smoke. 

Now that he and and his brother have the old fogies safely esconced in assisted living he probably thinks he’s home Free. His brother is far more thoughtful but he lives in Kansas City. He’d be of no help to my plan. 

Yournamehere

Marty I wish you and yours the best of luck! A few couples this year have gone into assisted living places and they say they are very happy. It’s a big change but I’m sure it’s for the better. 

silvermouse

OK, I hope you have good luck with the stepson. But remember, if that plan doesn't work out or is just too much of a hassle, that the handout would be to your caregiver 

jlmarta

Yournamehere said:

Marty I wish you and yours the best of luck! A few couples this year have gone into assisted living places and they say they are very happy. It’s a big change but I’m sure it’s for the better. 

Thank you for the kind wishes. I’m sure you’re right and it’ll be better for us later on. Right now, it’s all about adjusting but I’m getting the hang of it.... I think....

Sleddog46

Marty, I only talked to you that one night when you told me about you and Barbara. It was such a pleasure to meet you and I wish you and Barbara nothing but the best. Hope you find a warm place nearby to smoke a stick. Merry Christmas

jlmarta

@Sleddog46

Thanks for the good wishes, Doug. As a matter of fact, since the last time I posted about a place and time to smoke, things have improved a bit. My stepson agreed to try to spell me for a few hours once a week which will give me time to slip away for a cigar. 

I’m still researching the outdoor location here at the facility but, as before, in bad weather I’ll just drive over to the Moose Lodge and utilize their smoking quarters. And, for a while at least, I’ll try to keep our caregiver on the payroll for enough time to allow me a second smoke each week. She’s been a good worker and a friend to Barb so I don’t want to just let her go - at least until she finds other work. 

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